If I have learned anything about love over the years it's that what I have read in books or seen in the movies isn't always what love turns out to be. There are so many things about love that have been illuminated for me in the last couple years that I have spent with my husband. With that said, I have come up with 21 (one for each month that we have spent together) of the most cliche expectations of love and how they have differed for our relationship.
Love wasn't about love at first sight, it was about seeing my missing piece in a familiar face.
Love wasn't about having sex, it was about finding deep intimacy in the most intellectual conversations I've ever had.
Love wasn't about sharing a bed, it was about sharing the cost of comfy sheets.
Love wasn't about being excited about the season of love, it was about seeing every season as the season of love.
Love wasn't about finding the perfect person that hit every want on my "list", it was about finding an imperfect person willing to strive to be everything and more for both myself and our family.
Love wasn't about waiting for the other to grow and become someone specific, it was about learning to grow together and become the best partner for the other.
Love wasn't about giving up weird habits, it was about embracing those habits as the beautiful and unique aspects of the other.
Love wasn't about waiting for the perfect way to spend time together, it was about anytime together being perfect.
Love wasn't about just getting married and starting a family, it was about becoming a stable and strong family unit regardless of any timeline.
Love wasn't about coming together at the exact time, it was about waiting until time permitted our love to blossom freely.
Love wasn't about going on expensive dates, it was about having the most fun playing tennis ball soccer at 3 am.
Love wasn't about having the perfect wedding to ensure a successful marriage, it was about ensuring a successful marriage through hard work, open communication and loyalty.
Love wasn't about putting on a face to be the "perfect" person, it was about being completely authentic regardless of how difficult it could be.
Love wasn't about being "tied down" with marriage, it was about being unified as a couple and a family.
Love wasn't about fighting because "couples always fight", it was about finding moments of disagreement and working together to come to a compromise that worked for both.
Love wasn't about being intentionally dishonest to avoid conflict, it was about being brutally honest even when it hurt.
Love wasn't about only appreciating the positive times, it was about finding strength and guidance in the other even when times were quite hard.
Love wasn't about only seeing things from a unified perspective, it was about being able to share each perspective and learn from the other.
Love wasn't about outsmarting the other, it was about teaching the other and being the perfect compliment to the other.
Love wasn't about comparing and contrasting previous relationships, it was about realizing the beauty and resilience of a completely separate relationship.
Love wasn't about becoming a preexisting love story, it was about working together to write our own perfect love story.
I have never read a story or seen a movie quite like ours and I could not be more thankful for that. Never did I believe that I could fall in love with a story as much as the one we write everyday. I am so honored to have found a husband that is willing to learn and grow alongside me and I am truly enamored by how brilliant it has been to become a family unit and navigate this life together. I will continue to cherish each moment we share together and find sweet gratification in knowing that ours is a story that will forever live in originality.
Xx,
Mrs. Yearley
Note: Reposted from my previous blog.
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